Megan and I get asked a lot, "How did you guys get so lucky, landing with someone that you get along so well with?" And I think it's very important to note that she made me wait. So there was lots of making out, lots of amorous activity going on. I think I can put my foot down and say don't Netflix and chill.Our society is bombarded with European beauty standards, our phenotypes are radically different than everyone else who is white and beige, and we constantly have this anti-black/anti-African looking propaganda subliminally floating around media.Because of this, when some people are born into this world their truth is that there is no benefit to being dark skin, that their life was way too hard and they hope their children come out a lighter complexion than them in order to give them a better life than them.
We made goddamn sure we were going to have a lasting fascination with one another before we went through the emotional turmoil—the highs and lows—that is coitus.4. There's a few different quotes [on this]—and I'm exposing my sad ignorance—but it's the notion that there are multitudes of wonder in one flower's blossom, if you just slow down and look at it together. I can easily imagine two of these Netflix-and-chill types on a date, and perhaps the gentleman on the date says, "Oh, my gosh, look at this sweet William blossom! " And the woman is thinking, And what I would say to them is: If you're trying to reach a connection with a person, then you have to take a deep breath and let go of Facebook and of that side of you that thinks there's something more exciting somewhere else. And as long as nobody's getting hurt and everything is consensual, I'm not gonna pooh-pooh it.In my last post I talked about how to get over a break up, including why you should give yourself time to grieve, cut off all contact with your ex, and understand the cycle of emotions without getting discouraged by your negative narrative. Getting over a break up is great, but it doesn’t mean too much if you stay in your apartment watching Netflix for the rest of your life and never meet anyone else.The goal is to get out there and find an epic and deeply satisfying relationship.In Latin America I believe the saying is, “adelantar la raza” which pretty much means “advancing the race” so every time you date lighter, closer to white, you are advancing the race.In India, their media shows all these bleaching creams and more Eurocentric, Northern Indian, type of features. When I first moved to Los Angeles, on the heels of a really rich kind of theater life in my twenties, I got set up with this very cute actress and we went out to dinner. When a lot of people think about date night, your mind will immediately go to, like, well, you should wear something sexy and, you know, light some candles.