It is possible that, as late as the mid-19th century, bundling was still practiced in New York state and perhaps in New England, though its popularity was waning. The office-seeker came to a rural home late in the afternoon.
He inquired whether he could obtain a meal, and lodging for the night. The supper was a fine one and the candidate was in excellent humor.
The young man asks his girl to marry him, but he does not give her a diamond. The couple keeps their intentions secret until July or August.
At this time the young woman tells her family about her plans to marry.
The Ordnung is a written and unwritten set of rules for daily living.
Joining the church prepares the young people for the seriousness of setting up their own home.
Read through all the comments below to discover what it is and who is doing it. Dee I think that's why it so controversial, even among the Amish, Carol. Lizzy It is still practiced among the Swartentruber Amish, at least it was when I left 4 yrs. Naomi I heard from a former Amish, that it still goes on, that is why they left so that their children wouldn't get pregnant and then have to get married, then have to join the church and then make the VOW and then the religion has them. Naomi, did you know if the former Amish was Swartzentruber or Old Order? ( : Naomi Old Order Minerva Dee my family is old order, and yes it is still the way of dating in the community "Danville, Ohio" Le Roy Ya, it is basically a rule in the Swartzentruber church where we grew up and if anybody didn't do it because of conviction they were considered strange! A classmate did a report on it in our English class in college. I heard the Amish in Lancaster PA no longer bed court. Le Roy, I wondered if it is still going on around here. Lynn, the Amish bed court without a board--just teens in a bed together--often on the first "date"--in fact, that IS the date. It seems that a porch swing might have been better.A whirlwind of activity begins after Fast Day on October 11.Fall communion takes place the following church Sunday.When Emma Gingerich left her Amish community in Eagleville, Missouri, she was 18 and had an eighth-grade education. The life that awaited most Amish women—one of cooking, cleaning, and child-rearing—never appealed to her.She wanted an education and the freedom to choose her own path. She grew up without light bulbs, but she met her boyfriend of seven months on Plenty of Fish. When people ask where she’s from, she responds, wryly, “Missouri.”Apparently Emma is not the only Amish person lured by a freer, more connected life. I googled my grandfather and I found information about him that I just couldn’t believe. Apparently, he was accused of doing some bad stuff, but the law couldn’t do anything about it because he was Amish.For a few years now I've been hearing conflicting stories about the Amish and bed courtship.